Rule 1. Set clear rule
Rules about what is and is not acceptable at home and in public. Some children are confused about what is acceptable and what is not. Before sanctions your child in any way, make sure they know what they are supposed to do in specific situations.
Rule 2. Give your child warnings before punishing him
Every school has a behavior policy and every teacher in the school know it. The school policy indicated how many warnings should be given before a sanction and what are the sanctions for each thing that the child does wrong. Giving warnings when he does things wrong.
Rule 3. Be consistent
The purpose of the school policy is to be consistent. In every single classroom, every single teacher will follow the same rules. The same goes for you at home if your child spends time with their father or with their grandparents they should all apply the same rules that are how consistency is built. This is the secret to a successful education.
Rule 4. Give them time
When asking to improve behavior and to stop doing something that they doing wrong, we have to give them time.In the classroom, when the teacher wants to refocus the class after an activity, she starts counting down from three, at a pace that allows everyone to refocus. Try counting down from three or from five, depending on the level of attention and the age of pupils. You should try this at home too with your child. Tell them to stop doing whatever they are doing or you can say something like “You have 5 seconds to go to the bathroom and brush your teeth. If you are still watching TV when I get to five, I am not reading your favorite bedtime story tonight.”
Rule 5. Set daily targets
If you know that your child needs to practice spelling or tying their shoelaces, or anything that you think they should get better at, set a target for them. Ask them to spell 10 words every day and check if they do it. If you make a habit out of that, they will massively improve over time on that particular skill. It takes about 60 days to create a habit. After 60 days, they will be used to doing it and will not complain about it.
Rule 6. Consider the consequences and the punishment
When coming up with a punishment you have to think about the effect that is going to have on your child. You can’t give them a punishment to read a book when they have done something wrong, because he will start receiving reading as a punishment and they would dislike it for that.
The punishment that you can set can be related to the things that he has done wrong or you can take away his playtime or the things that he enjoys doing during the day. That can be shortening Tv or play time, not making his favorite snack or skipping a play date. For teenagers, punishments should be related to mistakes. Misuse of pocket money means no money for a week. Misuse of the phone (maybe sending inappropriate photos) can be no phone for a week.
Rule 7. Offer rewards and praise them.
As teachers, we use verbal encouragement we praise them in front of the classroom and for the smaller ages, we give Stamps in the book with smiley faces, achievement points or any other positive ways of encouraging them during the lesson, like writing their name on the board.
Think about the perfect reward for your child. Is it the trip to the zoo? Playtime on their iPad or maybe just their favorite snack of the day? The rewards to be proportional to the goal achieved and it should be given day after the child achieves the daily targets.